This, unfortunately, is a symptom of a wider, societal view that a woman is not allowed ownership of her own body. Women – by virtue of being women – are told that they have no right to control access or use of her body. We have no problem publicly trying to shame them for being “too fat” under the guise of “concern for her health” or dressed too provocatively or being too sexual. Women are subject to unwelcome attention, harassment and catcalls for the crime of being a woman in public.
So. This guy.
I read this article, “Creep shots and Predditors and Cat-calls, Oh My” (which the above quote is from) on his blog, which is primarily devoted to giving dating/relationship advice to nerds looking to get girlfriends. I was surprised to find that he’s actually pretty fucking awesome and fills the really important role of a het, cis man teaching other het, cis men about male privilege and how not to be shitty misogynistic douches. So, props to this guy, because he made my day!
I can’t stress enough how important it is to have allies who use their privilege as a megaphone to speak truth to power. It’s critical to have these people because very often they are the only ones who can get through to the demographic who’s privilege they share and who’s behavior it is most crucial to change in order to dismantle systems of oppression.
Some other awesome posts he’s written: